How getting your thoughts out of your head helps you grow!
When events happen in our lives it’s all too easy to react in an emotional way; by releasing expressing that emotion it feels that as though we have released it and it makes us feel better. However this all depends on the way we release the emotion! If we release the emotion in a negative way, for example we shout at someone, if this transgresses your values it goes against your core self and can produce negative feelings. At the time you express that emotion you might feel better in the moment, but in the long term this is going to hurt your growth as a human being, because that was not you. Your values dictate who you want to become and going against them produces conflict, and when you have conflict it is painful. So the spiral continues if you are not aware of how you are expressing the emotion, So how do we start to channel this behaviour in a much more healthy way? What works for me is that I write things down, even now I am expressing how I am feeling in the blog. So I am writing this blog and I am on a strict deadline and have to use my computer. So my feelings are running quite high at the moment, however as I continue to write this blog that is becoming less and less as I write, this is because I am getting those thoughts out of my head and brain dumping them into this blog! So you are getting real time feedback in the moment as a I write; and as you know I like to experiment with ideas and concepts to see what works! This may not work for you, but you can give it a try; because life is all about trying different things that work for us as individuals. Once you have brain dumped all you will start to feel a release; ( I am feeling that at this moment) so what does this do? Well, it allows you to control how you are feeling and you know what humans are after all the time; they are after feelings. For example, if you want more money it is most likely that you want freedom to do what you want when you want. So you want a freedom of feeling and not being constrained by whatever job you are currently doing. So when you think about it we are after feelings not things. We get the new care because it makes us feel good, we might give to charity because it feels good. Do you get the pattern? So here are some take aways for you, the next time you are feeling overwhelmed: 1- Get all your thoughts out on paper, just keep writing until to feelings subside and you think you have got everything out. 2- Make a plan to deal with those feelings, which one was causing you the most trouble. For example if it was about meeting a strict deadline, start to create a plan or schedule that will enable you to plan for that deadline. 3 - Execute the plan and review it. Make sure you are disciplined in terms of carrying out the plan otherwise you can fall back into old habits. So there you have it this week and I hope this has helped. So keep strong and keep improving and until next time #inspirationnation
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