The question that always pops into my mind is why do I think like this? So there I was it was Wednesday then Thursday and I was feeling like crap. I’m on the project that I’ve talked about before and I’m not sure how it’s going to turn out! I project into the future and think this is all going to fail it’s not going to work out, that’s when I realise I’m facing my adversity! Now it’s not the project, it’s me and my thoughts. The question that always pops into my mind is why do I think like this? I’m a coach I know how this works. What I can tell you is your brain doesn’t care what you do or who you think you are, it will do all it can to go to the negative, this is the protection mechanism of the brain to keep you safe. It wants you to pull away from danger, its the amygdala that’s hijacking you and you don’t even realise it. It’s just so well designed! As I’ve said before this is okay if we are facing a dangerous animal but when I’m on a project this just doesn’t work. If my amygdala had its way I would just give up jack in the project and run away! That for me is just not an option, so what did I do!! I also get outside for a brisk walk just before I start work and get out into nature and try to stay present It’s all in the routine. As you know I get up around 5 am (actually I have been getting up at 4:30 am!) this is where I do some exercise, meditate and then do some journalling this has saved me from my cursed amygdala. I also get outside for a brisk walk just before I start work and get out into nature and try to stay present, this has worked a treat and I want that to work for you. At this point, it was my responsibility to stick with what worked to continue through!Adversity is in your mind! I had created it and my brain had got hold of that and was just thinking of ways to have an easy out. At this point, it was my responsibility to stick with what worked to continue through! What works is the routines that keep me inspired, I need to keep the things that work. Back in the day before I got into this self-development lark, I wouldn't be conscious of what worked, so then we are at the mercy of our beloved amygdala and that’s why we don’t achieve, why we don’t grow and why we don’t get better. I realise this now, but that’s not to say it gets any easier. Just because you are aware you still need to be conscious enough to recognise what pulls you through and that’s the leaning into adversity and pushing through it. The question I ask is, has anyone else achieved this?One of my tactics is just not to give up. I recognise that I just have to do everything within my control to make this happen, if someone takes me off the project for any reason that’s out of my control. But I know that my effort and commitment will get me through. Sure I recognise that I could fail but I also recognise that I have a high chance of success. The question I ask is, has anyone else achieved this? The answer is usually yes, so if that’s the case then why can’t I succeed and that’s another key. Recognise your chances of success and dial into that, also recognise that you could fail, but if you accept that and know from that failure you will learn that will also be a win, so you don’t lose! Many times when we cry it’s just our bodies reaction to express our emotion This week I was coaching someone and they burst into tears, it was the classic hijack, my job at this point is to be there provide support and be there to help them face their challenge. A good question to ask is, is it all that scary? What’s the worse that can happen? Many times when we cry it’s just our bodies reaction to express our emotion, it’s got to come out in some way and that’s why we cry in these types of scenarios, the crying is the expression of the emotion. Book mark this blog and just know we all face adversity at points in our lives and we can all get through this together, you are not alone! Adversity is there for a reason, it’s there to test us, to test our resolve, we know deep down that our next level is on the other side of that adversity. It’s a lot easier to write about it once I had got through it, it’s quite another when you are facing it in the moment, just hang in there it will pass. I know with this project there will be even more adversity, for me and it’s just about how respond and how we respond will dictate the level of growth. I want massive growth and I want to get to my next level I never want to stop growing so the key is to keep trying, keep going, keep failing quickly, adjusting and adapting. The life you want is on the other side of adversity so let’s do this together. Book mark this blog and just know we all face adversity at points in our lives and we can all get through this together, you are not alone! Let’s go!
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