We are conditioned from the moment we are born that things matter.We are born we have nothing, no clothes no possessions and yet we learn to value possessions like we will have them forever. We are conditioned from the moment we are born that things matter, and in that way, we get attached to form, and that means we give up some of our emotional control because we invest emotion in those things, objects, clothes or whatever. I have heard people say you can’t take that with you, and when you think about it it’s so true. We place so much value on possessions that we forget that we are only the custodians, we are looking after things until we are gone then someone else will take over. It really does bring home our place in this universe and actually how tiny we are as human beings in this universe. We know in time to come that whatever we have will pass to someone else or it will eventually return to energy from where it came. It really does bring home our place in this universe and actually how tiny we are as human beings in this universe. So why do we place such value on things and objects when we know they will not be with us forever? We do this because we enjoy things we get pleasure from things, the problem is, is when we place such a high value on possessions they begin to give us emotions that harm us. Have you ever had a possession that when it got damaged you really felt negative emotion and a feeling of sadness? Or you lost something that you were really attached to and you felt a sense of loss? I know I have, I especially feel this when I have collectable items or items I think really hold some sentimental value. But now when I think about it, does it really matter? For me, it’s all about perspective, yes enjoy whatever the object is, appreciate it, but recognise you are only looking after it until either it is gone, broken or something else happens to it, the key is not to be identified with it. This can be especially difficult with sentimental items, but the pain we can feel when we attach with objects can really hurt us emotionally. We experience the world through our senses and this means we experience this pain on the inside, humans are after feelings so we need to exert some control over that world to live a happier life. Enjoy the present moment.I have been reading books Eckhart Tolle and every morning I will read an excerpt from his book Oneness with All Life. In his books, he talks about how we can start to move beyond form, take a step back and realise that we are all connected and objects and things are just that. It is just our thoughts which give them that high importance. Joe, you might say then what’s the point in looking after it. Of course, there is a point, you want to appreciate whatever it is and take pleasure from it, but just recognise this is temporary, enjoy the present moment and that’s when you are living life. Eckhart also references our bodies because eventually, they will become weaker and as we get older eventually the body will shut down. Again this doesn’t mean we don’t look after it, we appreciate it nourish it as much as possible but when our bodies start to fade that this is a part of life so our true inner self will start to be exposed. No longer will we place value on looks but the true person we are inside and our true nature of greatness and the gift of kindness we can give to ourselves and others as we age. When I think about that it does fill me with peace and if you can find it yourself, you too can find a sense of tranquillity. Appreciating objects and things and that they are temporary in this world.We can get attached to our houses, our furnishings when they get damaged and of course, we will try and get them fixed but just remember we do not really own them. My beloved spilt ink on our carpet accidentally and I could see the pain and negativity as we both attempted to clean the ink from the carpet. It has come out, but this is what I mean when we are attached to things we give over our emotional control to things that are not ours and that may or may not be with us for a while. I’m still finding this difficult but day by day I am learning not to get attached and to appreciate what I have for what it is, appreciating objects and things and that they are temporary in this world. Personal development is mastery over your feelingsThis has been my spiritual practice over the last three years and I know this blog is a little different but I thought it was really important especially in the light of personal development. Personal development is mastery over your feelings how we deal with them and how we can limit the real lows, enjoy the highs but have that real centred feeling around our lives despite what is going on around us. To have a centre rock which you can sit on whilst everything around you might be in turmoil. Now, this doesn’t mean you do nothing of course you do, but when you do take action it’s from a place of calm and strength because you are able to deal with feelings and emotions in a really centred way. You will have a perspective that really brings you to the here and now and it will give you a feeling of peace. Our job here is to cherish our lives to be the best person we can beIf your mind and body can be at peace, then your life will be peaceful no matter what goes on around you the key is not to attach to anything and recognise that people will come and go in your life, objects will come and go and ultimately you will leave with nothing. Our job here is to cherish our lives be the best person we can be, I truly feel that feelings are there as a test to see how we deal with life and the more mastery we can gain over our emotions the more peace and enjoyment we will experience in life. This is another part of the self-development journey and one which does require a lot of intention and practice. I have even now set alarms on my phone to practice breathing and being in the moment, this has just happened over the last week. What I can say is that it works it makes me calmer, of course, I still get attached to things but I definitely know that I feel much more peaceful.
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