I’m not saying it's bad not to recognise negative feedback because we can learn from it You put in the effort and start crushing things but don’t celebrate your wins! It’s really funny how we can really underestimate our achievements sometimes, when we aim for something and get some credit then we just simply forget and move on. Yet when we succeed at quite a few things then something goes wrong we focus on that wrong thing instead of looking at what went right. I know I do this, when I look at my feedback it feels good to see all the good things then as soon as I see some negative feedback my mind just zooms in on that and blows it up. Now I’m not saying it’s bad not to recognise negative feedback because we can learn from it, the problem is our minds make such a big deal of it and this then allows our minds to minimise the wins. Once we know that we are wired just to look out for the negativity we can be conscious to make sure that we look for the good So why don’t we celebrate our wins as much? I’m now making much more of a conscious effort because to recognise the wins is important. Our minds focus on the negative because it’s wired to spot danger and negative comments tie into that primal instinct to say what is that? Do I need to run or try and fix it? We are programmed to pick up on all the negativity!! It’s crazy why we think that, especially in this day and age when we are no longer being hunted by big predators. It just doesn’t serve us now, that’s why we have to be fully aware of how we work. Once we know that we are wired just to look out for the negativity we can be conscious to make sure that we look for the good and recognise when we have done a good job. This also means that we don’t look at the outcomes. Yes, you heard that right! Lots of people say it’s all about the outcomes, I disagree I’m much more on the side of recognising the effort that you put in. What effort you are applying? The reason is that it ties into our self-worth and you need to take care of that self-worth otherwise negativity is going to swoop in and destroy all of it. You have to build yourself upSelf-worth is the key to confidence, you have to build yourself up and I’m not talking about fake stuff either. I don’t like the term fake it till you make it, I’m more about believing that you can go and do it, really making the effort to go and do the thing that you believe in to create confidence and add to your self-worth. You need to fill yourself up with these moments because no one else willToday I had some amazing feedback it was off the charts, you see I usually ask my delegates to mark my sessions out of 10, and today I received an 11 for the coaching that I delivered. It stunned me as this is the first time it’s happened to me! It filled me up now I’m just enjoying that moment, so much so that I have put that into my development diary. I like to record these moments so I can review them at the end of the year and also when I’m not really feeling it. I also have a cupboard where I have stuck thank you cards and letters because it’s important to be able to have something that keeps feeding your confidence. You need to fill yourself up with these moments because no one else will, so find a place where you can keep these moments and use them as emotional triggers to build your confidence when you feel it starting to slip away. The amount of support I received on social was amazingAs you know I do a lot on social media and I like to keep connecting with like-minded people and people who support my mission to inspire the world, that’s another way to keep the confidence up and these people will help celebrate your wins. Only this week I had finished recording my 700th video in a row and the amount of support I received on social was amazing and that’s what I mean by surrounding yourself with people who are going to celebrate with you. Even if I didn’t have that I would still be proud of my effort but that extra congratulations just adds gasoline to the fire! Self-worth remember feeds into confidenceWhether you have received some great feedback or you just recognised that you put in the work these are great ways to celebrate your wins and to boost your self-worth. Self-worth remember feeds into confidence, and when you have confidence you are more likely to take risks and put yourself out there. Why not? When you are trying to live the life of your dreams that is necessary, so if you’re reading this I truly believe you are trying to do that and I hope that this inspires you. That’s my mission to empower people to live an inspired life.
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