I was about halfway through the day and I could feel my anxiety rising, there was a buzzing in my head You’re scared you’re afraid to dive into the unknown, fear and anxiety build and you know you have to face it but it can become emotionally overwhelming. Have you ever had that experience? I know I have, I was delivering some training that had been put into my schedule and I hadn’t prepared as I usually do due to time constraints. In any event, the night before I prepared as much as I could to deliver it as best as I could. Anyway as I was delivering this material, I was about halfway through the day and I could feel my anxiety rising, there was a buzzing in my head but I continued anyway, no one could tell what was going on inside as I was delivering material. On the inside, there was a war raging. My head was screaming get out of here, you need to down tools and just get out, then there was this other part of me that wanted to persist, that wanted to push through the fear. It was at that point I realised I had a choice, I could give into the fear or adapt and thrive. I am a Learning & development professional & coach and on some level, I understood this at a deep core level, so I continued and pushed through that moment. The result? We got through the day and my delegates enjoyed the training! There will be a moment in your life where you faced the fear, did it scared anyway and survived to tell the tale! So the lesson from all this was that I had pushed through my fear, in that moment I had adapted which then lead to me thriving, not long after that I re-launched my coaching, I was ready I had been reborn into a new state through that moment and realised I could tolerate fear and that on the other side of that fear was growth, I had grown and I was proud of myself. This is the story of how I dealt with it and your story is going to be different there will be a moment in your life where you faced the fear, did it scared anyway and survived to tell the tale! It’s these moments we learn the most, to be able to adapt to any situation and when we do this we learn that we can adapt, that we can thrive in even the most difficult of circumstances. Through that event, I had to develop the belief in myself to grow in that moment. Had I gone the other way I may not have be writing this right now. As I said you will have your own story and if you haven’t had that moment it will arrive at some point and it’s the decision in that moment that will start to develop your character. We are designed to adapt and thriveWe are designed to adapt and thrive, that’s why the human race has dealt with all sorts of challenges because we can think in new ways, we can think, we can respond in any given moment. I love the thought that we can be better than we were yesterday. There is something magical in that, we can continue to grow and improve every day as long as we choose to. The key here is to be self-aware of the choices you make. On that note I have been re-reading 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey I have again started from the beginning. The last time I dived into the book must have been last year but I only got to chapter one. So I started again although this time I have grown, I am a different person to where I was a few years ago and already through reading the book I am gaining new understandings about myself. The first habit is pro-activity and how we can respond rather than react, There is an excellent lesson here. We are humans we have emotions and some of us react and some of us respond. People who are successful respond to their emotions rather than react, if they feel anger they choose to feel the anger then respond in a better way. They may need to leave the room and come back after the anger has subsided but that is self-awareness being in that moment to respond. Once you are aware of your emotional triggers you can start to manage that and start to respond rather than react! With emotions remember there is a gap, you have the emotion then you have a gap, that gap where you either react or respond this will determine how you shape your character and this is what I’m going through. I am pretty good at managing my emotions but they still get the better of me in some situations especially with the family as they know how to push certain emotional triggers. However, once you are aware of your emotional triggers you can start to manage that and start to respond rather than react! When we respond we make an intentional choice, to choose our response that best serves the situation for yourself and the person you are having that emotional moment with.
This is all part of the adapt and thrive philosophy, we are always adapting, the key around all this is about how well you adapt, will you adapt in a way that is going to help you grow or will you react and just let chance carve your character? You have the power of choice and this is how we can choose to adapt and thrive so we can be the best version of ourselves and this is what I want for you. So remember let’s respond from a place of integrity and service and make this planet the best version of the planet people have ever seen. I want you to grow into the person you were meant to become and thrive so you can live the best version of your life. So let’s go.
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