Another week has flown by and another episode of the Inspiration Nation podcast has been released. We are now on episode 9, can you believe it! It only feels like yesterday when we started to record them. This week is all about forgiveness and how this works for us, if you have listened to the podcast you will know what a charged subject this was. This all started from one of my short videos that I do daily on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook. You can watch the video below Forgiveness can be hard to do at times, because of our emotions, feelings run high and we just do not want to forgive. Our feelings and our ego gets involved and things get very tough! But if we think about this for a moment, and think about who the forgiveness is for, it’s for you! When you forgive, you are letting go of the emotional pain that it brings. We do not need to have anyone give us permission to forgive, nor must we seek approval for our forgiveness from others, because that is outside of our control.
When we truly decide to forgive, we let go of the emotional pain, and if we are true to ourselves and we have truly forgiven then we will no longer feel the that pain. However if you have not truly forgiven, you will still feel that pain; so if you think of the event or whatever it was that you wanted to forgive and you still feel the emotional charge from it, then you have not forgiven! The only way you can really tell whether you have forgiven or not is whether you can think about the event and not feel that emotional pain. In the podcast we talked about being truthful with ourselves, I talked about the mirror test, (this was inspired by Evan Carmichael, go and check him out!) Where you stand in front of the mirror and say that you forgive to whatever you are forgiving. Lee had another take on this where he said you need go home and have a conversation with yourself. With both of these techniques, it is all about being truthful with yourself about forgiveness, or anything else for that matter. You know you better than anyone else and you know the true answer deep inside you! We can start to think about whether being forgiving is being a push over; this is so far from the truth because it takes so much courage to forgive and also this does not mean you don’t stand up for yourself. What forgiveness means is that you are much more self-aware about how you are a feeling and that you know that by forgiving you are doing this for you to live a happier and more fulfilling life. By forgiving it means you are no longer living in your past, because when we think about those events that we struggle to forgive, it means that we are living in the past and are no longer living in the present. When you think about it, the present is all there is, the past and for that matter the future are all created in our mind. So by forgiving it allows you to live your present moment in peace. If we don’t forgive we are still giving power to the people or events which we struggle with and so they still have a hold on us; this is what forgiveness is so powerful and by letting go of that you set yourself free from the pain. Now what I am not saying is that this will be easy, this stuff never is that’s why it takes practice. I still need to practice this a lot! But I know that if I can forgive, if I can let go then every day is a day well spent and I can enjoy my life in peace knowing that I have forgiven and let go. For whatever reason I cannot change what has happened, but I can learn and move on to live my best life. This is what I want for you. So how about some tips on forgiving! 1 - Think about what it is you want to forgive. What sort of pain do you feel when you think about the event, person etc. 2 - Be conscious and say you forgive them, but truly mean it. Do the mirror test or the go home and have a conversation with yourself technique. (If you want more info on this, go listen to the podcast) 3 - Every time that event pops into your thoughts, say you forgive and check your feelings and whether they are starting to subside. 4 - Record how you get on by journalling it and be honest about your feelings and if anything pops up, challenge that thought and continue to forgive so the feelings should become less. Whatever you are deciding to forgive I know it will be challenging. We had an incredible response on Twitter on this subject and the forgiveness shown was absolutely inspiring! It really did humble me and at the same time gave me courage that I too can forgive, and I wish this for you too. Check out the podcast at inspirationnation.org.uk and you will hear the real emotion that was discovered through our conversation. If you do listen, please leave us a review (a 5 star one preferably!) as this will get the message out there so we can all help even more people! So keep being inspired and keep sharing and liking the content as I want you to win. Don’t forget to leave a comment on the blog too so we can continue the conversation. Keep it on my brilliant people #inspirationnation
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